Tuesday, January 17, 2012
I'm gay and have a crush on my straight friend.?
wow i was like in this same situation like a year ago cuz i REALLY REALLY liked my best friend of 3 years but i knew she was straight so i just kept quite and treated her as a friend..a very close friend...she didnt notice and then like i have never came out until actually last year and i told my others friends first and then they asked me which girl i liked then..and i stayed quiet and then they said her name and i nodded...everyone knew i liked her....and when i came out to her...she said "ok well that doesnt change anything right..we r just friends still" so like everything was ok...she is like my best friend still and she actually told me that she used to b "Bi" when i first met her but i gues that was jsut a phase or she's hidding it now...and i actually told her after i got over her (im currently engaged to the most perfect woman now and i can wait to marry her, i love her so much) i told her cuz she asked me...but thats the only reason i told her..but im sorry for all the rambleing....i guess u really didnt needa know all that...lol sorry... oh but what i think you should do is wel dont distant urself from him...not all the way anyways...nothing is worth losing a great friend...i know its hard cuz like he is straight but maybe u could distant urself a lil..but not drastically...just a tad were you wont b too close to him ...like jsut set sum limits for yourself...i would only suggest telling him if u know what his reaction will b and if its an ok reaction...but if u do tell him you might wanna try this way "hey (friend's name here)...um can i talk to u, this is kinda important. well i have had sumthing on my mind for a very long time now and like it has just been bugging the hec out of me...and i just needa get it off my chest...you see...well..we are friends right? good friends?....and thats great...but like i have developed feelings for you a lil more than what freinds should have...im not going to attack u or anything in that matter...i just wanted to tel you because it has been bothering me for a while now and i know u told me that ur straight...and i respect u and i know u wouldnt lie about ur uality to me...but i just really needed to tell you that becasue it was killing me on the inside...please i hope this wont change anythign on our friendship...i dont want this to ruin our friendship..jsut please understand that this is hard for me in this state itself..." u may wanna say sumthin like that or sumthin u might wanna say on ur own...its all ur choice...all i can do is give u my oppinion and what i myself would do in ur shoes......i know what u r saying when people say "move on" and i know its hard to do so and i understand that u have been trying...but if u wanna try again maybe u can try looking for sumone else to kinda take ur mind off of ur friend...you know...kinda make a switch to sum1 that is gay or bi...its probably not going to b easy, ill tell u that much....but i just hope the best for you and hope everything works out in the end...and if he is a true friend...he wont leave out of ur life...it MIGHT b a lil awkward at first but then he will rethink about it and c that u r still the same person...and u have yet to do anything perverted to him cuz ur not that kind of person and that ur the same person and so u r stil his best friend....and nothing is worth more than a great friendship my friend.....ok well i hope the best...good luck...sorry about the rambling though...i tend to do that at times
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